A box is a square with four sides. Each corner represents a barrier of escape while
simultaneously acting as a protector. Once inside of the box, the only way to breach the box is to muster the courage to confront your fears. The box not only represent our perceptions of self, but also our limitations. In other words, the box represents our mental comfort zone. A quick Google search indicates the definition of fear as, “an unpleasant emotion caused by the belief that someone or something is dangerous; likely to cause pain, or a threat” (“fear”, n.d.).
When we think of fear our thoughts immediately go to situations where we may encounter a stray dog, a home invasion, a physical attack from a stranger, or a vehicular accident. Rarely do we think of the impact fear has on our mental wellness. For instance, how many of us experience the fear of failing? What about the fear of success? How about the fear of committed relationships or people? More specifically, what is the fear that keeps you trapped in your comfort zone box? How many of us allow factitious “signs” to deter us from pursuing our life’s purpose? What is that thing that you want to pursue, but your fear will not allow you? What has God called you to do, but your fear of something or someone keeps you from being obedient.
The bible is comprised of a plethora of information regarding fear. I would like to take this opportunity to briefly speak about Gideon. Amid working, Gideon received a visit from an angel. Gideon’s response was one filled with blame for his status; unkept perceived promises; self-pity. The angel of the Lord made a request of Gideon when he, like Moses, offered excuses in the form of fear and self-doubt. The Lord made a promise to Gideon, but it was not enough to convince Gideon to be obedient. Instead, Gideon required a “sign” that he was speaking to the Lord. Gideon prepared his customary meal and presented it to the Lord. At this point, Gideon followed the Lord’s request regarding his meal. When Gideon realized he was speaking with the Lord he became elated. It was at this time that Gideon embraced the Lord’s will for his life. (Judges 6:11-24 NKJV).
As you reflect upon Gideon, how similar is his story to your own? How many times have you been presented with an opportunity, but your thoughts became consumed with your shortcomings followed by fears of accepting an opportunity? How many times have you told yourself “if this or that happens, I can proceed”?
Finally, below you will find some points to consider as you progress from fearful to fearless:
Acknowledge your Fear
It is imperative that you are honest with yourself not only about your fears, but the people and situations that trigger these feelings.
Challenge Fear-Based Thinking
It is imperative that you practice challenging this type of thinking. This level of thinking presents in different forms and sometimes sounds like, “how am I going to make it on my salary”; “its been 6 months, no one is going to hire me”; “my children will get sick if they go to school”; “I’m not going to pass my virtual class”; “they’re going to find out I can’t read well”. Your challenge to your fear-based thought will be based on the actual thought. To begin challenging these thoughts, think about a phrase, a biblical scripture, or a word that you can immediately apply to the fear-based thought. Be patient, this will take practice.
Proceed through the Fear
After you acknowledge your fear and begin the process of challenging fear-based thinking with positive self-talk, the next step will be the most difficult part of the journey. Fear can paralyze the mind and become a strong barrier to moving forward. This is the time you begin developing a plan, with attainable and relevant goals, to begin the process of becoming fearless.